I realized I have never really written anything about
relationships or anything in that line. Probably, it is because of my ignorance
or just lack of interest. Nonetheless, as they say, ‘the time is neigh’. The
last time I wrote anything to do with love/relationships were the occasional
love letters in high schools, which seemed to get all the girls, mesmerized
(just saying). Anyway, one interesting thing about love is that no one is
perfectionist. Relationships are characterized
by mistakes, arguments and make-ups… I believe that truly defines it very few
words. So, looking back at my own love life, I am undeniably drawn to my ex.
don’t worry about her name for now, but I realize I never really feel out of
love. That is why I have a 5 of reasons why I still love my ex.
1. I dated my best friend
This is surely one of the best things I
did. Before any feelings came in between us, we were two very good friends. We
played, we joked, we shared… having a friend as a lover is very important, when
all is said and done sometimes, all we need is a friend in a partner.
Therefore, there is actually no love at first sight in my book. When time came
for ‘upgrading’ the friendship to a partnership, we both knew and slowly
shifted. Interestingly, sometimes the difference was negligible. So after, the
relationship, I remained good friends with her and still loved my ex.
2. She made me a better person
Whoever said relationships are all about
intimacy and romantic gestures was in a seriously challenged relationship.
Being an Economist, it all about supply and demand, how much profit I can
extrapolate at the end of a transaction. Economically, my relationship not only
broke even but earned massive profits. Jargon aside, my ex motivated me to
better, she appreciated the value of education and my talent. If I strayed, she
sat me down and told me in black and white. She taught me that there is surely
something greater than me by encouraging me to be closer to God and my family.
I wouldn’t be standing where I am if not for her.
3. I experienced bliss
So, why is experiencing bliss so important?
Bliss is that warm fussy feeling of happiness and peace that we experience. I
had just read and heard of people feeling bliss and at some point I thought it
never existed. Some get it from religion, family members or weirdly even
soccer, I got it from her. Don’t hate me for being all mushy on this BlogSpot
but I felt complete, I felt happy, before I went to bed I smiled knowing
someone else is smiling back. I had never experienced bliss but she made is
happen and I loved it.
4. We made memories
We stayed up talking all night, we took
long walks, we made future plans, I learnt a new language with her, we joked,
and we surprised one another. For my 18th birthday, she surprised me
with a cake, so many chocolates and a gracefully written letter. She knew me
too well to know that something in writing was an icing on the cake. So, if you
are in love, get out and make memories, someday, you will look back and smile.
5. She never stopped caring
Okay, okay, this is the final one, don’t
run away already. Anyway, my ex continued asking how I was doing constantly
advising me on issues and keeping in touch. She remembered my birthday and
important dates after that.
So, maybe, I was lucky. Maybe she was just
a great girl; maybe we built a strong foundation. All I know is that I had the
time of my life and I would do it all over again. I was happy and I am even
happier that she is still in my life. Thank you my ex, you are surely the best
thing that happened to me.
P.S If you want to know the name of my ex
look up the name ‘Beyonce’
